Why Marriage is More Important for Women than Men

It’s about that time of year when spring weddings come into bloom; thus, the spark of this post. Well, actually, the real spark of this post reverberated this morning as I heard Rod Stewart singing “Maggie May” on the radio; and this reminded me that he ‘recently’ became a new papa.

Ha! My how time flies!!! A quick search revealed that this ‘new’ addition is now 7 years old, and his bride is now in her late 40s. This child is the second for the couple; and, the rock-star is the proud papa of 8 children from various relationships throughout the years.

Today Stewart is a young 73-years old, and as mentioned, his current wife is in her late 40s.  This means that she was in her late 30s when she conceived; and he was in his mid-60s.

I realize thus far this post has been about the Stewart family. However, this post makes a case for why I believe most often women end up holding the short-end of the stick when in a non-legally binding relationship, aka marriage.

God created men, who remain healthy, with a lifetime supply of 'fertilizer.' This means that men can easily have children well into their senior years. However, women have a set window of time to naturally conceive. At some point she realizes that the proverbial egg-timer has begun to tick a tad bit louder.

A woman who wants children, yet stays in relationship with a man who gives her no inkling of wanting to commit his life to her as a husband, not to mention become the father of her children, may find herself increasingly at odds with her authentic self.

What say you? Is it wise to stay in relationship with a person whose interests/desires are totally askew to your own? Is it worth a woman’s risk to stay in hopeful wait for her partner to come around, with the potential that he might decide after precious time invested, that he’d rather marry a younger person to birth his children.

Remember, love is a verb. I can say from personal observation that the longer the person who professes his love for you, fails to show up on bended knee, ring in hand, date set, tux bought, wedding planned, and carried out, the less likely the happily-ever after will culminate.

Most often, wise men want to secure their bride as their own. Sometimes, men who’ve partaken of the proverbial milk, oftentimes, get overly confident, and 'take their time' deciding when and if, they really want to buy the cow at the expensive price of ‘forever after’.

A woman who has invested years into a relationship that ultimately dead-ends, oftentimes finds herself staring at the inevitable task of starting over. And, as noted, time tends to be friendlier to men than women where relationships are involved.

An older man has a lot better chance of meeting and marrying a younger woman to give him children; than, a woman past her ‘prime real estate years’ has a chance of meeting a man who is willing to marry her with only a vague certainty that the timer on the egg-clock can still bring forth children. Of course, we know, eggs and clocks are all in God’s Hands.

Statistics bear out that there are 12 women for every man. TWELVE. This means men who have a sense of ‘futures’ (lol) are slim pickings for females. This may explain why some women stay forever with men who string them along without any hopes of a proposal. They realize that wherever they are, they are in competition with 11 other potential females with various qualities. Of course, a man in love is a man in love; but is love enough?

I leave you with this. I have a two-year rule that I encourage people in relationship to consider. If you’re still together after a year, it’s time for a formal commitment, i.e. ring/proposal/date set. At the end of two years, seal the deal. Failure to do so means it’s time to reassess on a serious note, if this is your forever after or just someone getting the benefits of marriage without the writ of contract.

Best regards.

Peace.